The Allure of the Easy Win

The Allure of the Easy Win

The tension between career and family burdens anyone who has them both. How do you know how many hours and effort to give to each one? Should they get equal time and attention or is there some other magic formula? In my own life and in mentoring other guys, I’ve learned a scary but important lesson: it’s far easier to succeed at work than it is to succeed at home. In fact, this is true for most people who go to “work” somewhere each day.

That’s because my job has clearly measurable outcomes. The decisions I make either result in success or something less than. I get performance reviews and have the potential to get a raise at the end of a good year. I’m constantly receiving feedback and adjusting accordingly. More than anything, I’ve figured out how to make it work. That doesn’t mean it always works as I’d like, but I’m pretty clear on what it would take if I’m willing and able to do it. This is an easy win.

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The God Beyond Our Grasp

Faith requires trusting Jesus through uncertainty.

Pride demands answers. Humility allows for uncertainty. Faith is the difference.

Leaders Eat Last

This week I finished my second book from Simon Sinek. The book is called Leaders Eat Last and looks at leadership from a variety of case studies and cultural evidence. I like the way Sinek challenges the status quo and invites the reader to think differently in a number of areas. I couldn’t agree more with him on the need of a leader to create and maintain a healthy culture for his team. The only aspect I didn’t love about the book was that it felt a bit disjointed at times with different tangents. The tangents were incredibly interesting and worthwhile, they just weren’t always obvious to the main point of the book. I posted one of them recently.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book that capture the theme of what Sinek says:

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Moved

It’s incredible to see momentum created in an area that feels overwhelming. Just this week Michelle and I were approached by two different families who are interested in becoming foster parents. This is encouraging beyond belief.

Throughout our almost two year journey of becoming foster parents, we’ve worked to avoid two different extremes:

  1. That we would be faithful foster parents but would never impact or encourage other people beyond our immediate family. While we can certainly be faithful to the children entrusted to us, the problem dwarves us in size.
  2. That we would be an encouragement to others but that it would be little more than a symbolic gesture on our own part. While we can raise awareness for others, we can also make an impact ourselves and live it out.

That’s why I’ve tried to write about our journey as we go and also why I want to share videos like the one above. It does a tremendous job showing the darkness of the issue while also showing the healing which is possible. While they appropriately titled the short film ReMoved, I titled this post Moved in response. Because that is the hope I have seen through this process.

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The Conundrum of the Cookie

The Conundrum of the Cookie

Life is full of uncertainty.

As a case in point, my wife and I recently had a handful of discussions that belong on an episode of Seinfeld. With the addition of our fourth child we realized that some of our household tasks were getting more difficult to keep up with. As a result, we asked for some recommendations of cleaning companies that could come a couple times a month. We received a handful and finally decided to try out one of the top options. We were both a bit uncertain about how the whole process works as we’ve never used a company like this before.

For our first appointment, my wife took the kids out of the house so that some cleaning could actually take place. When she returned a few hours later, she noticed that the house looked great and had a clean smell to it (maybe that was just mental, but I swear there is a “clean” smell). But one thing in particular caught Michelle’s eye.

There was a half eaten cookie in the living room.

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Giving Up Good Intentions

Faith happens in the disappointment of failure.