The 2 Criteria for Following a Leader

Most of us have had supervisors we loved, and ones we secretly hoped would get a promotion… to somewhere else. How do you know when you’ve got a good boss? Is it when you agree with every decision they make? Good luck. Is it when they only say positive things to you? You won’t grow. I submit to you that at the core, you need two criteria for a good leader:

  1. Someone who can be trusted and has integrity
  2. Someone who is competent in their role

Obviously, good leaders have a whole lot more than these, but I’d argue these two are the lowest common denominators. Sorry for the math reference, that rarely happens.

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Unprepared

Unprepared: Is there anything worse we can say about you and your work? But the word means two things, not just one. There is the unprepared of a final exam, of forgetting your lines, of showing up to a gunfight with a knife—this is the unprepared of the industrial world, the unprepared of being an industrial cog in an industrial system, but a cog that is out-of-whack, disconnected, and poorly maintained. What about the other kind, though? We are unprepared to do something for the first time, always. We are unprepared to create a new kind of beauty, to connect with another human in a way that we've never connected before. We are unprepared for our first bestseller or for a massive failure unlike any we've ever seen before. We are unprepared to fall in love and to be loved. We are unprepared for the reaction when we surprise and delight someone, and we are always unprepared for the next breakthrough. We've been so terrified into believing in the importance of preparation that it's spilled over into that other realm, the realm of life where we have no choice but to be unprepared.

Seth Godin

Deciding How Much Influence You Want

I read the above tweet a bit ago and instantly retweeted it. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since then. If you are familiar with Bob you know he is a super-extrovert. If you are familiar with me you know that I’m definitely NOT. That’s why I’ve actually concluded his statement is more applicable to introverts than to extroverts since for people like me it definitely requires a deliberate choice.

Just today I was thinking about meeting a person for coffee (who I want to meet with and will enjoy their company) but then I also thought about what I wouldn’t be able to accomplish personally during that time. No reading, no catching up on emails, no blogging, etc. If you are an extrovert do your best not to judge me for this, it’s just how my mind works. So Bob’s tweet popped in my head and I reminded myself that making time for people is always a great choice, even if it does take a choice.

What I love most about his statement is that for all of us (the normal introverts and the bizarre extroverts) our influence is up to us. The question is: how much influence do you want? Then, make yourself appropriately available to those around you. Easier said than done for me.

Loneliness or Life

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I recently did some guest posting for Jesse Birkey (blogger and author of the books pictured above) on an encounter I had with my four year old son after a strange question he asked me. Little did I know I’d learn something about myself and God in his bizarre request. It’s the difference between choosing loneliness or life.

Click here to read the post over at JesseBirkey.com and make sure to check out what else he’s written.

What To Do When It’s Your Turn

If you know of Seth Godin, you know that’s he’s brilliant and will challenge you to think outside the box. His latest book, What To Do When It’s Your Turn continues with this expectation. It’s formatted like a magazine so it reads quickly and easily. The biggest shock was the overwhelming amount of typos throughout the book. I secretly hoped this was intentional and that Godin was illustrating his point of being willing to “ship” a product and get over the fear of failure. However, they turned out just to be a confusing number of typos for a book of this size. That’s really my only strike against it as the rest of the material was thought-provoking and encouraging. Seth, if you’re reading this it’s not too late to use that somehow!

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book (and there were a lot):

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My 57 Books of 2014

The last two years I somehow read the exact same number of books each year: 63. That’s a strange number but I wasn’t able to quite live up to it this year. My favorite books were A Farewell to Mars by Brian Zahnd (#33) and Culture Making by Andy Crouch (#48).

Here are all the books I’ve read since January of 2014 with my rating for them (5 being the best) and a brief review. You can see this list at any time by clicking on the link at the top of each page on my blog titled “reading list.” Any book without a number rating has been given to me by the author or publisher. You can also check out my lists from previous years, as well as my recommendations on how to become a better reader.

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