Initial Thoughts with a Foster Child
Secrecy is bizarre, and even feels a bit cruel.With foster kids you also adopt an interesting set of rules. We can’t show his face publicly (which is why you see the very selective camera angles in our pics). We can’t share his name publicly. And we can’t tell anyone (even our other family members) his story before ending up in our home. It is very odd to have such a major part of your life with the coupling of strict secrecy to go with it.
People often struggle with the concept of fostering but not with the actual children.Before we got our little guy it often felt like people wanted to talk us out of doing this. We’d get comments like:
- “Are you sure you are ready for this?”
- “Your kids are so young already.”
- “We could never do something like that.”
Seeing our kids develop a heart for others is one of the best parts of this.We ended up waiting about a month until we actually got a placement. That meant daily prayers with our kids asking God to bring us a new baby. One of the coolest moments was when Michelle picked Gavin (our five year old) up from preschool and his teacher told her that every time it’s his turn to pray he prays for a new baby with the entire class. Adelyn (our two year old) is still developing her prayer life so it’s pretty simple at this point. Before we got him, she would simply utter the word “baby” while she closed her eyes in prayer. Now she prays for “my baby.” Since we’ve had him, our other three kids absolutely adore him. The biggest issue we have is convincing them to give him enough space!Â Loving people as family even though they are different than us is becoming a normal part of our kids lives. It’s hard to imagine something better.
Changing someone’s story is one of the most tangible ways of experiencing the Gospel.Â (tweet this)I’m not an emotional person but just thinking about this little guy can bring me to tears. You look into his eyes and realize that you are forever changing his story. That’s the Gospel. God’s redemption breathing life into the brokenness. With children, the brokenness is often tangible and the symptoms can break your heart. Yet it is precisely in meeting those needs that we realize God’s power and heart for all of us. It also ignites your prayer life like nobody’s business. This is a young story and is sure to have many twists and turns to come. While we don’t know the outcome and realize we aren’t in control, we trust in a good God who has invited us into the adventure of a lifetime. Even if it is simply a prayer from a distance, we appreciate you joining us in this story of redemption.
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